Tue
Feb 14 2006
02:52 pm

I'm sure that there are lots of us Knoxvillians who are spending our Valentine's Day alone.  I should be used to it by now, but I don't think you ever get "used to" loneliness.  And you know what the worst part is?  It's like some vicious cycle.  Unless I'm willing to compromise everything I believe in, and everything that I'm holding out for in a guy, I'll probably spend every Valentine's Day from here to eternity in solitude. 

As a rule, I don't get involved with guys I work with.  Even if I had no personal objections to it, in my profession it would be career suicide to entertain such thoughts.  I go to a small church, but for the most part, the members are much older than me, and even if that were not the case, they're all married!  I've tried the online dating thing, which proved to be a complete failure.  Apparently, eHarmony thinks there's only one guy in the entire state of Tennessee who is compatible with me.  And considering that I've already met him, and that it didn't end happily, I suppose I'm doomed. 

Where do we go in this town to meet nice guys?  I am not looking to meet guys in bars.  Don't get me wrong - I'm not a fuddy duddy.  I enjoy going to live band shows from time to time.  I enjoy a nice cold beer from time to time.  But I am not the slightest bit interested in meeting a barfly who is only interested in me because he is blinded by beer goggles! 

I apologize for the rant.  My intentions are not to bash this holiday.  It's a beautiful day for all those in love.  It's a day of hope for all those who have recently met someone and are anxious to see what happens next.  But for those of us with no one special in our lives, it's a day to reflect on our imperfections.  After all, there surely must be some since we're being blackballed by the opposite sex!  

Happy Valentine's Day to you all!  May your lives be full of love!  And for the rest of you single Knoxvillians out there, I wish you the best of luck in finding your special someone.  I hope that next Valentine's Day proves to be everything that this one wasn't!   
F-Stop's picture

Happy Valentine's Day to you

Happy Valentine's Day to you too, Tish. Fellow single, here. But i'm celebrating bachelorhood today. Sure, i'd like to meet someone eventually, but only if I could have a relationship like my couple pals in Wisconsin. All other couples i've observed haven't met the standard that Fred and Amy have set, in my eyes. They really have something good. I hope there are more Fred and Amy's out there!
cafkia's picture

I like bars

I grew up going to church.  When I became of age, I tried bars.  I still go to bars.  I no longer go to church.  Several years ago, to make a point (to myself as well as others) I quit drinking for almost a year.  I went to bars anyway.   I like bars.  I like the casual atmosphere.  I like arguing politics and religion which, I bet you are pretty damn uncomfortable doing at work or in church.  Yes, sometimes I drink to the point of intoxication.  No, it does not always result in me finding some woman beautiful for the evening. 

 Maybe you will meet your Mr Right while you are out jogging or walking your dog or shopping for grits.  You seem to have ruled out all the other places.  I strongly suspect that if I made a statement analogous to the one you made, my closest 70 or 80 friends would ask me what I was afraid of.

A gift isn't just given.  For it to truly be a gift, it must also be accepted.  If you don't accept it, it is like never being given something.

 CAFKIA (single for 50 years and counting)

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